Reply to We agreed I would host Easter…now MIL is balking

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "We agreed I would host Easter…now MIL is balking"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What if the story went like this:

"We have always hosted family holidays, have been doing so for years.  We really enjoy having people in our home and value being the gathering place for extended family.  This year, one part of the family decided that they wanted to host Easter at their house and have everybody travel there instead.  I initially agreed, but now I'm regretting it.  I just don't see what the problem was at my home and I'd really like to keep up that tradition for the kids in the family as long as possible.  So now I'm stuck.  The other family has no obligation to come to our house, obviously.  But are we obligated to all go to them all of a sudden and break the tradition?"

Point is- nobody is "right" here.  If it means a lot to you to host this time, sure you can say that you won't go to MILs and to offer to host everybody.  Absolutely.  But it apparently means a lot to MIL to have people there.  Just decide what matters more.
  [/quote]

1) No one is “obligated” to accept OP/DH’s invitation. There is no “show up or else no more access to the grandkids” or “show up or else we won’t come for Christmas.”

2) OP and DH are very deliberately not stepping on Thanksgiving or Christmas toes. MIL still gets to be Queen for a Day for those important holidays (when it is OP/DH’s turn to be with them in the rotation they’ve worked out with OP’s family). If you (or MIL) is the kind of self-proclaimed “matriarch” who “owns” all major holidays and you can’t even let people host for a change on Easter, shame on you. Especially shame on you if you expect people with kids to schlep to you all the time, when you are able-bodied and retired.[/quote]
+1 If the MIL had posted that, she’d be skewered on here, and rightfully so, for failing to mention she always hosts the other two major family holidays and that it’s very easy for her and her DH to travel and less so for the family of 4 with 2 little kids. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics