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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'll take Schadenfreude for $1000, Blossom.[/quote]

Definitely this, but I can’t tell if OP’s schadenfreude is directed at her mom or her golden child relative. I’m leaning toward her mom. [/quote]

That's because mom/sister are a system, it's not one or the other, it's a dysfunctional dynamic that has hurt OP. She doesn't speak to the sister, but her mom is still trying to use the sister to hurt her. The sister, well, she doesn't know she was raised to be a weapon, but she's good at it anyway.

OP is not a bad person. She's a person who is realizing that her mother, who's supposed to love and cherish her, does not. Obviously, emotions will be strong, negative and confusing!

Not you, PP, but I would love to see how well the other, hyper-critical PPs would deal with this situation in their own lives. Lack of understanding conveys stupidity. Intelligence is required for empathy. I am sorry for simple minded ignorance, it does the world no good.

OP, I get it. I can't tell you what's right for you. Personally, I cut loose my mother when I realized she did not love and/or is incapable of it. I didn't want that in my child's life. The responsibility for my child freed me of the feeling of obligation toward my mother.

Many people can't stand the truth, don't want to hear about real crap that happens ... sorry, can't help those people! You'll have critics no matter what you do. But whose opinions matter?[/quote]

You sound like an utter fool. You and OP both need to stop letting your dysfunctional families of origin play such a big role in your adult life and work on moving on instead of dedicating so much time to admiring the problems that come with dysfunctional families of origin. Including carefully crafting a worldview in which everyone who thinks you should move on lacks empathy, intelligence, understanding, personal experience with familial dysfunction, and all the other things you’re projecting on everyone else. [/quote]

All OP has done is come here anonymously to vent her uncomfortable feelings. This is a healthy action overall, except that she's doing it in an unsafe space with useless posters such as yourself. Hopefully OP is well enough, after being raised in a toxic family, to filter the good from the ugly/empty responses here.

When I see a post here I think I have something useful/empathetic to say, I will explain it. I am not "admiring" problems. I am giving hard-won perspective. You are offerring nothing but "move on" which is not simple, and if you really do have experience in this arena, you also have not moved on, show no evidence or work for it. You have hardened and shrunk and become poisoned.[/quote]

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