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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you are older and she is a young adult, you need to put more work in. She may feel self-conscious and therefore seem standoffish. She may feel the situation is awkward. She may have been expecting more warmth from you but is just getting politeness.

Yes, invite your half-sister to the family outings. She may opt out, but it’s the gracious thing to do. You can take your dad out separately as well, just the two of you. [/quote]

Thank you. This resonates with me, to a point. I get that she is younger (she is in her 20s, I am in my 40s) and might feel awkward, and I sympathize, and I am a warm emphatic person and have been hospitable. And I get "suck it up for the (extended) family", "do the gracious thing, etc.", it's just, I have finite energy reserves and I am stretched thin as is. If I suck it up here, it will pop up somewhere else (with kids or husband or with work). I guess it is up to me to find the right balance of how much hospitality warmth I can give so that I am not completely exhausted and will just collapse or blow up...

My HS was planning to come to the US all along, but there was no plan to visit me (dad mentioned she would be arriving with him, but clearly said she has her own plans and won't make it to the DC area). 4 days before arrival, dad asked whether it is ok for the HS to come stay with me for "a couple of days", she would then proceed with her plans, not in DC. I said ok. Yesterday morning, dad told me, when I asked about HS plans (is she leaving on Wednesday or Thursday -- to ensure we have a dinner out as a family before she leaves), he told me, oh, I think now she will stay for the same amount as I (my dad) as her original plans did not work out...
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