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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Before DH left for deployment, he asked for help. Explicitly. They changed the subject. They brought up that our kids are in daycare.  [/quote]

So it was pretty clear from this conversation that they weren't going to be your childcare helpers.

Why did you expect differently?

Time to align your expectations with reality--- get a babysitter, but don't expect them to be something they aren't.  They made that clear.  Now it's your turn to accept it and move on to plan B.

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I agree with this.  They never seemed to offer any help, so I'm not sure why you are expecting they'd act differently.  I'd write them off your list of "helpers" and move on to hiring help when you need it.  You are still allowed to have feelings about it, sure.  But it's not like they claimed "oh yes, we'd love to help while John is deployed!  We'll do everything" and then they failed to do that.  They clearly saw the need coming, and decided to ignore it.

So, move on from them even being an option.  Create some boundaries for yourself so you don't feel like a doormat.  You can let your DH know you are hiring a sitter for X number of hours every week so that you can do things outside the house.  But just...move on. Seething does nothing but waste your energy.[/quote]

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