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[quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thanks for the comments.

I am not concerned about the HS staying here indefinitely. Don't think she has any interest in me or my family, which is totally cool, or in staying with us and hanging out with my kids... I guess I am upset because I now have this person in my small personal space to whom I need to give mental energy because she is staying at my place and I feel I need to be hospitable and make her feel welcome...

Some examples, my dad wanted to go to a Caps game, we discussed doing this even before he came, I wanted to get three tickets, for me, my older son and for dad. Do I now need to invite the HS?

I took dad to my son's practice, where we walked and talked while my son was at practice. He asked if HS wanted to come (she did not want to because she was on the phone), but I just wanted to talk to my dad, walk, talk, grab coffee, and to not "entertain" and ask HS a few polite questions to make her feel included and welcome... She does not ask any questions or initiate conversation or offer to help, which I get she is young and may be slightly uncomfortable, but is it my job now to make her comfortable? I have so many other things to give my attention to...

My son has a tournament this weekend, we were planning to go to a restaurant after that. Do I invite HS to the tournament and the restaurant?

Perhaps, I would have loved to get to know my HS better if dad treated us both to a trip or hike or picnic or ice cream, but he brought her into my personal space when he knew how busy my life is... I feel that he did not consider my convenience; he just invited her along when her original plans fell through. I guess I feel kind of disrespected... that neither of them asked whether HS staying here for three weeks was ok/ nobody said thank you for hosting now that other plans did not work out. HS is polite, but pretty much says "hello" and "thank you" to me and my family and answers "yes, thank you" "no, thank you" when I say something like "there are fresh berries on the kitchen counter" or "I hope you slept well" to be polite... [/quote]

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