Reply to Stone deaf ILs

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Stone deaf ILs"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People in another state are not your backup child care. Where are your parents?[/quote]

OP, I'm really sorry you're in this situation.  But I can't see how your ILs in another state would be considered candidates for helping with drop-offs, pickups, babysitting, etc.  Maybe a few days an occasional visit (and I get they aren't even doing that), but that doesn't change the fundamental issue that you have no help on a regular basis. That's not their responsibility.  Seems to me this should have been worked out between you and your DH before he deployed, either joining a babysitting coop, taking turns with friends, or budgeting for a little help here or there?  Most of my friends would hate it if their husband's parents came to stay while he was away;it's just a very different relationship, and ILs are often wary that their visit would burden you more than help (because you have them as company...I know many who perceive an IL visit this way).  Sort of d*mned if they do or don't.

I do think they should call and check in and show more care about the grandkids.  But given that they live out of state, I don't hold them responsible in any way for fixing your lack of hands-on support or childcare.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics