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[quote=Anonymous]Why do so many men think that passive = passive aggressive? Or that indirect = manipulative? So many women are raised that being indirect is the polite way to communicate and it is not intended to be aggressive or some kind of indirect attack - it's just a way to state your own needs while not making demands or being bossy. I have certainly learned that being more direct is the way to go with men because it is more effective, but so many of them assign bad intent where there is none and it's frustrating and sexist.
Instead of just saying "I need to work in a quiet house, please take DC and leave", she's leaving room for a response - "how about in another half an hour or so, that works for me" or "I was just about to start fixing the faucet and I think DC and I would prefer board games at home this afternoon, could you work from a cafe instead"? Or whatever - she's leaving room for your own needs and trying to be a team player. She's doing her fair share and trying to be accomodating and the response she receives is she's manipulative. Eyeroll.[/quote]

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