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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am on Facebook regularly. My list of friends is carefully controlled. So it's a great space for me.

I am on Twitter and IG very sparingly. I have accounts there to see what's going on.

These are simply tools. You can control them.[/quote]

Sure, you can control some aspects of social media. But the platforms themselves are not designed to support you in using them in moderation, and they are not designed to support privacy or limits. I use IG in a very controlled way and am fine with my own use, but the people who run IG are working to thwart that. I go on rarely enough it's not an issue, but when I do go on they always have some new feature that is designed to catch my attention and get me to spend more time there. I remember a long time ago it was just a feed with photos from people you followed. Now there's tons of videos and lots of suggested posts and disguised ads. It requires self control to use it the way I want, which is to maintain a private account shared online with a handful of people so that we can share small family and travel updates. I don't have a problem with that control, but just as there are people who struggle with alcohol or drug abuse, I know there are many people who struggle with limiting themselves. The platform is designed to addict, just like other controlled substances as a PP pointed out.

With Facebook, I had to just quit. I could have gone through and meticulously removed the friends who were making that space toxic for me, but it would have been hard because it would have included my sister, my mom, and several coworkers I saw frequently. I could have muted them and limited how much of my account they saw, but they would have noticed and asked about it, and I would have had to lie to keep the peace (I don't want to lie). It was honestly just easier to quit altogether, and I found other, better ways to keep in touch with the people I wanted to interact with, in more private ways that I controlled completely, without needing to carefully set up privacy settings.[/quote]

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