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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]ie: from the start  - Did you ever forgive them?

In other words, if it was nothing you did, if they were just not nice people. Ex: if they judged and criticized you, but did not bother to get to know you.

Would appreciate words of support, rather than criticism and assumptions.

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IL's were horrible to me, especially MIL.  She actively tried to get DH to not marry me, and later to divorce me.  Then we had a child, and it stopped.  DS was like my ticket to the family.  I haven't forgiven or not forgiven - I always saw her as an obstacle or interference, and it would be like forgiving a pothole for busting your tire.  I never wasted any anger on her, just tried to keep her from causing problems.  I still have to manage her, but DS gave me some power that I didn't have before, as well as years of marriage and my name on the house title, and other things I didn't have before.  It's not a matter of forgiveness so much as I just don't waste as much time thinking about her anymore.[/quote]

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