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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The only thing I have is Facebook. But I have unfollowed almost everyone except for true friends and close family (maybe 10 people) that I genuinely care about and they me. I don’t check it that often and mainly use it for news and local updates. My huge time suck is DCUM and I don’t know how to quit. I have a lot of downtime waiting on my kids in pickup and in the evenings when they are at activities. I need a better and more appealing hobby but I haven’t found one yet. [/quote] I posted upthread about quitting FB and being glad but feeling disconnected. I think my DCUM addiction is almost entirely about that. I never posted on here before leaving Facebook. I knew of the site and had used it to get info about childcare and schools, but had never posted and certainly didn't "check it" ever -- it would come up in google searches, I read through the relevant thread, and then forget it existed. But I became totally addicted during Covid and I think it's because that feeling of disconnection got so intense. But instead of getting back on Facebook, I just started checking this site daily and posting here all the time. It's become my company during the day while I'm working. But it's way too much and it's unhealthy. Just like back when I was on Facebook, I could never really modulate my use -- I'd have it open in my browser all the time and was just constantly checking my feed or poking around on there. Obviously there is something about my personality that just seeks out connection with other people. I think it's partly about validation, but really I think it's mostly about just wanting people to talk to and connect with. I grew up in a dysfunctional family and barely have a relationship with my parents and siblings (like we talk and I see them, but it's entirely surface and will never be any more than that because there is just too much dysfunction in those relationships going back decades). I'm married and have friends, but I just crave people to talk to and to listen to. I do think DCUM Is a healthier outlet than Facebook, though, because the anonymous nature keeps it within certain boundaries. I think it's healthier to check this site 10x a day to see if there is a conversation I want to join in on, than to check Facebook to see what everyone is up to. But it's still too much and I would love to modulate it down to something that feels more reasonable.[/quote]
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