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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So for those who say they don’t interfere with husbands relationship with parents, does he allow them to be rude to you and you just don’t care that he doesn’t stand up for you? [/quote]

My MIL saves her worst behavior for when he’s out of the room and then she is stunningly rude to me. I’ve made a point now to try to never be home when they visit, I don’t take the obligatory trips to their house (across the country) and if I have to see them I try to glue myself to H’s side so she doesn’t have the opportunity. At thanksgiving this year she couldn’t get me alone and was clearly jonesing to go off on me so she waited until he went up to say goodnight to one of our kids and then went after me in front of the other guests in my home. So bad that her own sister called (so I guess my aunt in law?) called me the next day to try to console me about the behavior. We’ve been married almost 20 years. But it definitely has impacted my opinion of my spouse. Even the more casual rudeness, if my parents treated him the way his treat me (like the hired help basically, except I’d never personally be so rude to anyone I hired, but for lack of a better way to explain it, I’ll use that term) I would call them out every single time because to me it’s like death by a thousand cuts. MIL is purposely rude, FIL is just obtuse and obnoxious and plays off MIL’s deliberate rudeness.[/quote]

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