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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Met her in the line at preschool and things were budding and fine between us until first grade. Now everything feels to me like a competition, or nose-rubbing event with her. I may have experienced the last straw.

I first noticed it around early 1st grade. Her daughter came out nose in a book, reading a pretty advanced, Harry Potter-level chapter book and I remarked about it and she replied something like, “Yep! Why, isn’t Larla reading chapter books yet?” It made me question everything. Ever since then it’s been much of the same: If it’s not comments about academics and how advanced her kids are, it’s about how they overachieve in other areas. I’m sick of it.

Today I was shamed for still folding and putting away my 8yo clothes. Of course, she doesn’t do that for her kids. [/quote]

Wait, maybe I'm competitive but I don't see why her response wasn't valid? I was telling my friend that both of my kids were reading chapter books by 1st grade.  Maybe it was the last straw for you though. In general I think the realtionships are natured that way bc everyone is in the same swim lane. It's not taht it is a competition but what else can you talk about and share/compare. I haven't figured this out yet, maybe some are better than others on how to communicate without inciting competition. [/quote]

NP - you really haven’t figured out how to have conversations with friends that don’t revolve around comparison?  Really?  That sounds like a nightmare.

The non-competitive response the OP’s friend could have given would be something like, “yeah, she loves to read. [insert topic change]”

My oldest was an early, advanced reader like this kid.  Because I knew that, and because I don’t like to compete with my friends, I gave some variation of that response often.  It’s possible this woman literally has no clue what typical reading development looks like, but based on what the OP has said, she’s probably just extremely competitive.  [/quote]

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