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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am confused - why do you even need to tell her? Is the donor allowed to contact her or something?[/quote]

They are not genetically related.  All it takes is one genetics class and some funky blood types to uncover this.  Or, one 23andMe type test and BAM she finds out and is devastated.

I would have told her by age 7 or 8, 14 is a rough age.  I agree with the therapist route.  [/quote]

No it’s best to tell around two or three [/quote]

They cannot meaningfully understand it at that age.  Disagree.

The time around her first period makes much more sense.[/quote]

Not helpful for OP but I agree first telling at 2-3 is best. Doesn't mean you don't revisit as they get older and have more comprehension but it is better if it's a fact they've grown up with their whole life than something sprung on them in adolescence or even later childhood.   That's what I plan to do with my daughter.  We have the book "what makes a baby."   I'm thinking of making a book for her that tells her specific story since I'm not thrilled with some of the DE books out there.

For OP I agree consulting a therapist with experience in this area makes a lot of sense.  On the plus side at least the information will come from you as opposed to them finding out on their own through genetic testing - that seems to be the worst way in terms of feelings of betrayal.  [/quote]

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