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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Was the professor correct ? Did you end up in that field ?[/quote]
I dropped out immediately. It was my very first class. I would have had to take the majority of related classes with her, I was embarrassed and took her words to heart. I have no clue if I could have improved with some guidance and support. My heart was in it, but then I allowed her to shatter it. 
I allowed her to shatter it. [/quote]

This is not entirely on her. Trauma isn’t just what happens to you, but how you respond to it. Some people would be discouraged, but not drop out (an extreme reaction). Others might have disregarded her opinion entirely. And some would have seen her opinion as a goad to become amazing in that field.

Definitely talk to a therapist. [/quote]
OP here. This is very true, and an interesting point. The Me of today would definitely see it as Option #3: Challenge Accepted. So perhaps it was an important moment of growth for me, and allowed me to become the person I am today. [/quote]

I am a Challenge Accepted person. The best way to tick me off is to tell me I can’t do something for some BS reason they come up with out of racism, sexism, ableism, etc. I’ll never tell a person F U to their face, but I will prove them wrong in every way they doubted me. [/quote]

You should go and thank your doubters for lighting the fire under your butt. [/quote]

I didn’t need a fire lit under my butt. I was judged on the basis of my race and gender before I even had a chance to perform so I could be evaluated. I still deal with this from time to time when someone new comes on board. They arrive with prejudices about Black women that cause stress for us both. I got sick of having to trot my credentials out for new higher ups. Now I just let my work speak for itself. [/quote]

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