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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Good for you.  Enjoy your nursing home.  You realize they will inherit it.  I'd prefer to see my kids live more comfortably rather than them inherit it when they are much older and don't need/cannot enjoy it as much.[/quote]

Same. My parents helped me the best they could (not as much as the OP of the other thread but that is only because they don’t have as much money). And I am definitely planning to share with my children while I am alive. I want to see them happy, I want to ease the stress of raising a family and paying for activities or tutoring or summer camps, I want my grandkids to graduate with as little student debts as possible etc…

Not sharing is not how to avoid having spoiled brats. What is key is how you raise them. How you talk about money, what is ok to spend on. And how much you donate to charities and others in need too. I want my kids to have a nice life, I don’t want my kids to buy 2k Louis Vuitton bags before thinking about making regular donations to the soup kicthen. Life priorities are taught early and throughout their lives (mostly by the exemple of how you live your own life by the way)[/quote]

You think you have SO MUCH CONTROL just by the way you raise them but you don’t. You really really don’t. I have seen families where one child turns out a productive member of society and the other one is a mooch.[/quote]

Yeah, but the people I know whose parents have paid for everything, tend to be the ones with their hands out.  I know people who married someone just because they thought their parents (ILs) were rich - yet they don't talk to them (the ILs). These people are well old enough to be paying for their own DCs private schools, etc. - but it doesn't once dawn on them that there are other choices, and that they don't have to be spending all that money. [/quote]

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