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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. My little girl's bday is in february, and I am not going to do it at a playground. We plan to bring cupcake & cookies to daycare on her birthday, maybe goodie bags. But there are a few parents only have done small birthday party at their houses  (like range from 3 kids to 10 kids only) or venue (15-20 kids only), and my girl is invited. Her daycare has 24 kids in her class. We have done many playground playdates many times for a small group of few kids, and 1 kid somehow seems to be kicked out of the playdate group these days. What happens is that that little kid sometimes does not play well with other kids but the kid's parents are nice. That kid is friend with my little girl. My girl can play well with many kids.

I grew up from a culture that no birthday party outside of family & I ever have playdate in my life. My house is cluttered and does not have many toys. My little girl is social and I don't have to worry about her social situation. Our weekend is busy with both my youngest & oldest activities ( dance, swim, soccer and etc). Unlike some family that only have 1 kid or their kid may need some friends, my little girl's social situation ia my least worry and she has older sibling to play with.

I will do daycare party, but I don't plan to do an outside of daycare party. And, I may do group playdate invite at playground when weather is warmer.[/quote]

Do you actually like doing these things (play dates and birthday parties outside your family)? Or are you just doing it because American culture tells you you are supposed to do them?

If you actually like doing these things, and it’s not just social pressure, then explain to the people who have invited you to their house why you can’t invite them to yours. Just tell them the truth - that you are very willing to host at a public place, but not at your house.

I think it is rude to go to all the 1 on 1 invites and not explain your situation. If they understand then good. If not, then so be it. They’ll stop inviting you. But at least you said something so they don’t sit there and think that you are rude or don’t have manners. If you don’t want to have to explain your situation that’s fine too. Some people don’t want to share private information. Just decline the invites. [/quote]

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