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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. Ok, so I’m just venting here to avoid blowing up at my friend. Here’s some examples:

-she doesn’t really respond to my messages or acknowledge the things going on in MY life. 95% of our communication is about her-her talking about her thoughts/ideas/problems, and me responding. But when I talk about my life she just responds in a limited way, if at all.

-she’s deep into the law of attraction and life coaching stuff and truly believes that our thoughts can impact our physical surroundings.

-she doesn’t work or have kids. This actually used to be fun for me-I enjoyed hearing about her crazy/interesting life, her travel, her love affairs, the amazing food she has time to eat and prepare, etc. It was kind of like escapism from me and reminded me of the chapter when we lived near each other overseas in our 20s. Over time though, it kind of depresses me when my life is so monotonous and hard and especially since she shows no interest in my life now.

-she asks me for help with things like her resume or finding a job, and I provide help (review resume/send jobs that she’s qualified for). She doesn’t take my advice, but wants to keep talking about the problem and these totally pie in the sky solutions. When I try to gently/lovingly guide her back to reality, she gets annoyed with me.

-on the rare occasions she listens to what’s going on in my life, she often points out how my negative thinking attracted the problems I’m encountering.

-I have young kids, one with severe SN, and she recommends things like diet/supplements to cure her from her incurable disabilities. She also keeps wanting to blame this horrible winter of horrible viruses on our diet. She even sends me woo/new agey kinds of books about how diet cures all illness.

Gah. See what I mean? She’s not bad intentioned but we just are not a fit for each other right now.[/quote]

I think taking a break is a good idea.  You two seem really similar.  [b]You give each other advice and you both ignore each others advice (I wonder if she is rolling her eyes at your resume suggestions as you roll your eyes at her new age suggestion[/b]). You might find you are just too different.  You might find you miss her.  I would suggest that your choice of communication may be what  is leading to you both to misread  each other.  Sometimes it is hard to know when we are helping people and when we are annoying people via text / and other tech.

Do tell her something. Perhaps be slow to respond and say you are busy/stressed and your doctor suggested you take technology breaks. [/quote]

Well, resume suggestions are real and new age is nonsense woo, but hey, you tried it. DP.[/quote]

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