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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t know. Have you ever driven yourself to the grocery store to buy diapers with a fever of 102 because your husband was deployed and you were new to the area, had no family there, etc? No? Probably not. My point is that “having a positive attitude” or whatever other platitude is being offered up (be grateful! Enjoy these years because they go so fast! Blame yourself for deciding to marry this person and to have a child) isn’t actually going to alter that situation which objectively sucks. Or the fact that at that moment other people’s lives suck less. It is worth it to ask people who don’t find themselves in those situations to be aware that others do. Sorry it makes so many of you uncomfortable to be asked to acknouthat others may experience poverty, loneliness and other challenges.[/quote]

This! I am surprised at how many people are jumping on OP. Of course some moms have it easier than others, I find is ridiculous anyone would say otherwise. And the responses that are like "just don't have kids" if you don't have all the stuff that will make it easy? It's classist and offensive. Agree with the PP (with the long post) talking about how we as a culture have simply decided not to support women on the transition into motherhood, which means we leave it to individuals to satisfy all their needs themselves, and of course some people are less able to do that because they started out with less family support, less money, etc.

No one is asking you to feel guilty or loan out your nanny or your housekeeper or whatever. All OP is saying is hey, could we not JUDGE the moms who struggle more and instead acknowledge that some people are running a harder race and be encouraging and kind?

And while we're at it, could we not keep raising the bar for what it is to be a "good mom" all the time? Every time you turn around there is something else moms are supposed to be doing or are supposedly failing at. It's ridiculous.

I am fully on board with just cutting moms some slack, OP.[/quote]

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