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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My oldest teenage child was in a psychiatric hospital three times this year (suicidal ideation was part of it). It’s been a terrible, stressful year with times I literally needed to drop what was going on and help oldest DC. I mention this to make it clear I understand that sometimes we need to make sacrifices to help our children.

I also have other, younger children. No matter what was going on with oldest DC, I made sure I kept things going for younger DCs. It meant that not every decision could be about what was best for oldest DC. I could take the time for them that I couldn’t take for myself.

My experience with older DC also helped me realize that I don’t have a lot of control over what is going on or what is going to happen. I’m stressing and researching and doing my best and putting my life on hold, but what they desperately needed was a good psychiatrist and the right medication. How do I know that? Because in the end, that’s what has reduced the number of hospitalizations - everything I was doing was useless in keeping DC out of the hospital. [b]Now when DC is having a bad day emotionally, I remind myself they are taking their meds, it’s a process, and right now they aren’t in the hospital. [/b]

Your example of not taking a job so you could get a better therapy time for your DC seems like a misplaced desire to feel control over the situation. It’s not really clear there is a benefit for your child - just you trying to do something else to help. While I understand that desire, the opportunity cost is real, and it’s not good if all of your decisions are entirely focused on what might help your child. [/quote]

I really think I must be being unclear. I didn't "not take a job." I just decided not to go after something I was vaguely considering.

I re-started this thread because of the bolded. Right now DD's at school, even though they were afraid to go because they aren't sure they will be safe there (we did go get an assessment last night and the therapists support my decision to send DD to school). I am comforted by the idea that it's a process. They are taking their meds (and that they have a lot of support and won't be alone there). So thank you! [/quote]

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