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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you've money, you can spoil them by sponsoring their visits or by getting your own place if you visit their town but what if you can't afford all that. How do you keep good relations without money? How do you keep good relations if their spouses aren't compatible with you? [/quote]

I am having this issue with my College-aged son. He doesn't want to spend the time to come home (his words) but also makes me feel bad for not coming to visit more often. I have to rent a hotel room and haul 4 people plus a dog to see him. Add 3 meals a day for 5-6 people, gas and shopping for him and it becomes cost prohibitive. We also are struggling with his GF who makes outings together stressful and dramatic. His whole personality has changed, especially ove rthis past year where he acts grumpy and entitled around us and it's just become really unpleasant to be together. Makes me sad as we were pretty good with average ups and downs growing up and now it's just not.[/quote]

Well, you're the one who wants to see him. And why can't you come by yourself? Board the dog FFS. There doesn't need to be any shopping at all.

Think about this from his perspective. You say you want him to come home, but you probably also want him to study, get good grades, and maybe have a job. It's hard to spend a whole weekend traveling/visiting and also manage those other obligations. Should he just blow them off so that he can visit you more often?[/quote]

Well I have a job and a working spouse and two other children in school who have travel sports. Are 4 people expected to change all their things to cater to 1 single adult who only has school to worry about? That's pretty short sighted and selfish, no? And we have paid to board the dog but that's not free or cheap FFS. It's called compromise.[/quote]

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