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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op, I understand your hurt.

That said, it doesn't erase the real experiences you had with him.

I had a relative who explained to me that she isn't leaving xxxx money because she knows they'll be okay. On paper  there was absolutely no reason to think so

Who knows what baggage your grandfather had. He may have simply made a mistake. It's okay to be hurt because it's hurtful. That said, I wouldn't question the relationship.

Money is a funny thing, and people's relationship with money is more emotional than they like to admit, and I don't know your or his story, but I would give him the benefit of the doubt. [/quote]

Sometimes we (potential receipients) look at money in a funny way too. You are saying that your grandfather giving money to you means you had value in his eyes. But your grandfather likely saw you and your relationship differently. He may feel that you are more capable than your cousin. Perhaps he felt he owed your cousin in some way for raising a parent who was not capable. Perhaps he thought your cousin was far less capable than you without as decent of a parent.  Basically you are tying money and care but your grandparent might be tying money and guilt/obligation/worry etc

It’s still annoying, I get it. My parents have also wrestled (openly telling me) with how to split their assets between me and my brother. More for brother than me because they see him as less capable and less able to take of himself. For a long time it made sense to me but now that we’re middle aged, it’s begun to bother me. So I hear you.[/quote]

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