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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Given it is all family, I would absolutely go. I disagree that if you can't afford to subsidize the meals of the other guests, then you shouldn't attend. If it wasn't family, then it could get too dicey but these are your family members!

Talk to them. It is family. Surely they would rather have you there rather than not have you there unless you help cover their food / drinks. Talk to the host to see how they anticipate sharing the costs.

If the guest of honour is also hosting - just let them know that you would love to come but you are on a $25 budget and is there a way to make that work?

Not quite the same but once when I was a grad student I attended a conference and ended up going out to dinner with my supervisor and 3 of her prof friends. We arrived at what turned out to be a really expensive restaurant. I thought I would just order the cheapest thing and get away with it but then they just told the waiter to divide the bill equally amongst the 5 of us. I had ot put it on a credit card and it took out my entire food budget for the month and left me in a really bad situation. Twas a really good learnig experience and I have pretyt much declined all further professional invitations since! I had grown up pretty poor and had never been to expensive restaurants and had no idea that a dinner could cost so much or that people split the costs regardless of what they ate or drank. Those things don't happen in my world![/quote]

It’s so crappy your supervisor put you in that position! I can’t imagine not being that oblivious or insensitive to a grad student’s finances. Really beyond the pale, IMO.[/quote]

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