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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What you are feeling is normal, but it doesn't have anything to do with you husband and how he should feel about his mom. That's his business. You lost your mom suddenly; he I'd losing his by inches. Is one really better than the other as far as effect on the child. 
You may want to address your hurt with a therapist, but it is not the person who is currently losing their parents job to help you by muting their pain.[/quote]
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This is 100 percent something for you to work out.  It is not on anyone else to minimize their grief for you.  [/quote]
There are people like OP who always have to begrudge others their feelings, bcs THEIR own feelings are worse, or they had it worse, in their opinion, that is.
The problematic part here is that OP think her DH and other people are not entitled to feel bad/fall apart about something, but she feels it is ok for her to begrudge them their emotions bcs she had it worse. Insanity.
She is telling her husband that she cannot be upset bcs SHE had it worse and making the bad situation about herself. When does her martyrdom stop? Never, bcs she might be a narc.[/quote]

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