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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ha, well yes, I am “triggered” (LOL) through my own personal experience, already described upthread, of commentary of my “friends” on my eating habits, when I made changes, quietly, and it resulted in weight loss for me. All this scrutiny about what I was eating or wasn’t eating - they were the ones obsessed, not me. I changed the topic all the time.

While most here have made completely legit points about some apparently unhealthy and disordered eating habits, my point is that not everyone who doesn’t eat as much as you do has an eating disorder, even if they make a ton of boring small talk about food (eating it, not eating it, how much they are eating). When there’s a mother-daughter relationship in the middle of it, things can get complicated.

On this thread we have a person who describes her normal weight BMI mother as obsessed with food and her weight, but she really doesn’t give any examples of specific craziness other than curtailed sour cream use, LOL. Maybe she has an eating disorder, but another possibility that I would offer for your consideration, is that maybe she doesn’t, and the problem is on the daughter’s side. I asked, not meanly, if the daughter is overweight and then I got a lot of deflection (her weight is “appropriate” whatever that means).

Just something to consider. Don’t be “triggered” by it, ha!.[/quote]

I think both things can be true: your friends are jealous annoying about your weight loss, and many people's boomer and older moms are disordered eaters and obsessed with dieting. Since I guess you are saying that only low BMI opinions are qualified to opine on this topic: I have an underweight BMI and have all my life and I'm the one with the disordered-eating MIL. In fact, she was just here this morning clucking about my breakfast. Clearly, food and eating are sensitive topics for women because we are always judged by our appearance (and weight in particular), and it manifests in so, so many ways. [/quote]

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