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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just keep explaining why you feel the way you do. Do it in as calm of a tone as possible.

I don't believe in compromise when it comes to these things. If you don't want people there, you don't want people there-period. Sorry, whoever pushes the baby out gets to decide who is there while they are tired, bloody, and leaking fluids.

Yes, this is one time where it is about you and what you want. There will be plenty of time to compromise later. I wish people would stop being so pushy about who is at the delivery and home immediately afterwards. [/quote]

I also agree with this.  I'm also not comfortable having people around, and it was just DH and I for our first baby.  It will be just DH and I for the second.  The in-laws were more than welcome to come visit (LATER!).  They came for 2 weeks about a month after the birth.  My parents came a few weeks after also.

Nobody came to the hospital.  I would have been way too uncomfortable with that.  I don't hate my in-laws, I just wouldn't want anyone there at that time.

Sorry, OP that you DH isn't being supportive.  Hope it works out for you.  [/quote]

Problem is that OP isn't saying no one.  [b]She's saying my mom but not yours.[/b]  [/quote]

I think this is COMPLETELY REASONABLE! It's her MOTHER.  It is totally different to have your own mother there taking care of you than having your MIL.  Now if it were the H that was giving birth, then it would be reasonable to expect that HIS mother take care of HIM not hers.  Geez people, don't you see the difference?? Your mother has known you your whole life, gave birth to you, took care of you when you were sick, etc. etc.  You just don't have the same level of comfort with your MIL, who you've known only a short while in comparison, no matter how close you are to her.

I agree with this pp.  This is one issue that I think is non-negotiable.  Your DH needs to understand that it's not just a matter of who gets to visit when, but who you will feel most comfortable with having around when your boobs are hanging out, you're sore, bleeding and leaking fluids.  Guys just don't get that.[/quote]

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