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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am surprised at the vitriol toward OP on this post and I suspect it’s because those posters identify with OP’s spouse. Have you had conversations about retirement? What you want it to look like? I would talk about how being active is important to you and invite him to do some things that are maybe a baby step for him. If he is putting up walls then I would find a therapist who might have better ideas for me. [b]Then, if he still decides he’s ready to start his decline, I would make sure I had enough financially to take care of his impending ill health and start planning my own active retirement without him.[/b] I’m sorry, OP, you are in a tough situation. [/quote]

I'm surprised as well. It's not like it's a secret that some people behave differently during courtship than after marriage.

I agree with the above, except the bolded. If he is choosing a life path OP doesn't want to follow, she doesn't need to resign herself to becoming his full time caretaker. People divorce for having incompatible lifestyles all the time. And men often leave their wives for being sick.[/quote]

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