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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Here are some more facts. My sister met BIL about 10 years ago. He stopped drinking apparently five years before that. I asked what happened and my sister shut down and was like it's in the past, blah blah. [i]I feel like she's in denial of the real risk she and her kids are in[/i][b][i][/b]. This man is a walking time bomb and she's just carrying on like they are this normal family. It's just ... such a façade.

When I asked why she never said anything, she was like it's no one's business why he doesn't drink. I agree in a way (it's not my life) but I am worried and concerned. We always had a pact to never get entangled with addicts and here she is...married to one. [/quote]

What are you talking about? They probably ARE a normal family. And how is your BIL a walking time bomb? Do you honestly think every sober former addict out there is a walking time bomb? Honestly this is such an awful attitude. You have some major prejudice here and blind spots. It is incredibly audacious of you to call their marriage a facade.

You need to seriously ask yourself why you feel entitled to such intense judgments towards your BIL, sister, and their marriage based off of finding out that your BIL is sober 15 years. This is a YOU problem, not a them problem. Furthermore, his sobriety should be applauded, not shamed.

If this is seriously how you feel, you will be doing them a favor by distancing yourself. But for the betterment of all involved it would be a good idea to talk to a therapist (if you want) so you can unpack your abhorrence toward sober people which a history of addiction.[/quote]

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