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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I loved who I was in my early 20's. I got out, had fun, earned a masters degree, traveled for work every month. Then I got married, had kids, my job function turned remote by virtue of "industry improvements", and I'm struggling. I stay home basically 24/7, my life revolves around laundry and dishes. I struggle to connect with people because of this. I watch the news, so I am not wholly ignorant of what's going on in the world, but I feel...ignorant. On autopilot. I used to think my mother was stupid, but now I realize the trap that middle aged women with schoolchildren fall into. My husband has an "important" job (has been on TV during recent hurricanes), and I feel so left behind. Can anyone relate?[/quote]

I'm sure your mother loved who she was in her early 20s too when she got out, had fun, wasn't tied down yet.
I don't understand these laments about the drudgery of motherhood.  Two decades of "service" is the trade-off for having a family.  Motherhood is drudgery most of the time, it's always been part of the job description unless you want to give your children a complex.

What were you expecting, to live that 20s life forever?  If you didn't have a family you'd probably still end up in an un-envied life because age-ism in the workplace will get you, people will pity your spinsterhood, they'll snivel "cat lady" behind your back - all that stuff. It's no picnic for single middle-aged women.  [/quote]

Honestly, I think that some younger women don't realize that this is a systemic issue; it's the nature of being a mother and the nature of growing older in a society that so heavily values beauty, youth, novelty, flash.  Some people think that this is an individual issue and therefore they will make the right choices will never be like "those" women.  Middle age and motherhood are a bigger shock to those who somehow think they are above the everyday drudgery that weighs so many down.[/quote]

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