Reply to Found out my coworkers were lunching during covid

Forum Index » Jobs and Careers

Reply to "Found out my coworkers were lunching during covid"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you give off anti-social vibes? So many people WFH because they have no interest in the socializing aspect and just want to clock in and clock out. If that sounds like you, then you can't be put out that people are socializing around you.[/quote]

No, I desperately wanted to go back to the office from day 1. I don't handle isolation well - ended up in therapy, plus meds the whole time I was at home. Regular lunches might have saved my sanity.[/quote]

Did you ever reach out to co-workers to get together? [/quote]

No, because I didn't want to be seen as a covid denier. I had no idea they were doing it secret already...[/quote]

This is a situation where I would ask why you weren't included.  IMO, you don't have much to lose by asking but if you have a favorite of the ladies or one who you may be a little closer to could you ask - did you all think about including me?  It's always possible that these things just materialize and no one intentionally leaves someone out but if I were you I would want to know.  Take whatever answer is given with grace and then use that information to learn from it.  [/quote]

I did ask. She said it was because I "lived too far away" (and that's true, I commuted in once a week by airplane) but shouldn't that have been my decision? I was back in DC visiting family ALL the time over the past two weeks and could have easily swung by somewhere for lunch.[/quote]

Two YEARS, sorry![/quote]

Umm... there's your answer.  You lived a flight away during Covid lockdowns.  Let this go and work on being a kind and reliable coworker.    [/quote]

I AM kind and reliable. Just hurt and feeling left out.[/quote]

OP, and I say this gently, if you "needed" it to "keep your sanity," then maybe you weren't someone they felt they could deal with. Maybe they were handling things well enough when they could keep it easy and superficial, but someone with that kind of intensity would have been too much.

Have you felt left out before? Is this kind of familiar, being on the outside of a group?[/quote]

I'm not intense. I stay in the shadows, very quiet, don't waves, go along to get along. I just need to be around people.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics