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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Daughter 15 bday today! Yeah! And got her period. Exciting and mixed emotions for her. However the message I gave her was that it’s exciting time and life moment [b]but having period shouldn’t change your day to day. You can swim, laugh, cheer all the usual stuff.[/b]
   She got super upset and said I don’t understand.
   I see this so often especially thnx to social media- teens how act like life stops and they are “sick” for a week ewxh Month.
  I told her there’s no reason to believe she’ll have any problems and I’m here to help. 
   But how can I avoid playing into that period nonsense- while still being understanding. 
  What did most of you do or how did it go when your daughter got period?
Mine is a drama Queen - so that is our baseline.[/quote]
This is something you say if your dd expresses fear that her life will never be the same again and she won’t be able to do her usual activities, but it’s not what you say on Day 1 of her very first period, when she has no idea what to expect and hasn’t been melodramatic yet. Her first period should be all about helping her, soothing her, educating her, just being supportive. Make sure she has all the supplies and resources she could possibly need; not just feminine hygiene products or period underwear, but Pamprin, a heating pad, strategies for handling common issues (carrying pads at school, disposing of pads/tampons, what to do if she experiences a leak, what to do with bloody underwear when her period starts unexpectedly, tips for showering if she’s not using a tampon, telling her that even though it may be counterintuitive, exercise actually reduces cramping).

I have twin daughters who just turned 15, but they’ve been having their periods for years already. Some months their periods are no big deal. Other months, they may look white as a sheet, have really bad cramps, feel nauseated. It’s brought back memories of how bad my cramps were when I was a teenager. I’m almost 50 and in peri menopause and I’d sort of forgotten just how bad my cramps were in my teens. It’s amazing how much a few sympathetic comments and some chocolate can make them feel better psychologically.

You don’t empower your dd by telling her that getting her period doesn’t change anything; you empower her by teaching her how to deal with any situation she might encounter while having her period.[/quote]

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