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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"What are the cons of having one kid?"

"The main con is that she costs more than having zero kids."

Statements that are technically correct can still make stupid arguments. [/quote]

But… that is an important consideration. It’s just that for the first and often the second, the desire to have that incremental child often outweighs the loss of money. And time.[/quote]

The desire to have three kids often outweighs the loss of money. And time. [/quote]

wrong. I have three -- raising three in the DMV is a crazy expensive and a total hustle.  5 more years of daycare is another 150k, 4 more years of college is another 350k. If you want your kids to go to camp ... its 1500 a week! a week! Forget about traveling or eating out -- paying a restaurant bill for a family of 5 when they are all adult sized teenagers ... ooph.  I wish I had really thought with my brain and not my heart because my retirement savings would be a lot larger. [/quote]

I’m a PP who wishes I had more and it sounds like you’re the test case for someone who shouldn’t have had more than like, 1.

So yes, if you are like this person and don’t realize that someone needs to watch *all three* kids while you’re at work, and *all three* kids need to eat and you foot the bill til they’re 18, and that you live in an inherently expensive city, then this is your thread. [/quote]

DP - you do realize that when people post threads here about having a third kid, a large portion of responses are ALWAYS along the lines of “imagine your family around the dinner table in 30 years!  Imagine your grandkids!  No one ever regrets having another child, they regret the one they didn’t have!”  They largely ignore the practical considerations of having a third kid, including finances.

Setting aside your tone, something for parents who want three to consider are things like: are you willing to send your kid to cheaper camps?  Public school (including college)? Are you cool with a used minivan?  Those are the kinds of trade-offs that aren’t discussed enough and are worth putting to any parent considering another child.  Many people get caught up in the emotions of having a third child and figure they’ll work out the money stuff, especially if they follow the advice often given here.[/quote]

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