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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow, you place a lot of blame on this other child. Let’s rephrase it for you, “my kid is a bad kid.” He got into big trouble at school for just observing? Yea, ok mom. Come to terms first and then get help.[/quote]

Ok. My kid is a “bad” kid when he is around this kid.

And the principal said he was observing. The other kid got suspended, we got a meeting with the principal. The principal even told my kid to find new friends. [/quote]

Oh OP you are missing it.

Your kid is not innocent.

Move them now. Otherwise, it is only going to get worse. You are saying your kid literally came home and started talking like the other kid in one day back?????? That right there is a sign your kid is in this to win it.

Your kid is not innocent and is as "bad" as the one you are blaming that is not fair own this or your kid will be the one that gets hurt in the long run this will not end well.[/quote]

Kids aren’t bad. Kids engage in bad behavior for a variety of reasons. Usually, not always,  they are hurting somehow.  Try to figure out if your son has other stresses that make him more susceptible to engaging in inappropriate behavior with this kid.  Problems at home? Bullied or ostracized by other peers?  Academic challenges? Anxiety or depression?   [/quote]

Yes, I hate using the term “bad” kid. He is just a kid and didn’t choose his family. Older siblings are a mess. I assume he’s not getting good guidance at home on behaviors. Not sure what is driving his behaviors.

As for my kid, [b]he has been excited/nervous about this new school. [/b]Maybe he’s struggling to figure out how to fit in?

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He's had a big life change and puberty is rough, too. Could he be anxious or depressed? I agree with others that you ought not to lay blame on the other kid. Double down on your kid. As far as how your kid talks: it's obnoxious, perhaps upsets you, but totally normal for this age. Some food for thought...[/quote]

It could be anxiety with the new school.

My older son never went through a phase like this so maybe I need to adjust our expectations for “normal”.  
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