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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Give me a break! We do these all the time! We have a large generous family and a small house. 
We don't need anymore toys, so if you don't like it don't go to the party, and get over yourself (I hate it when people use the term folks) [/quote]

It's actually considered rude to try to dictate how other give gifts.  Even Miss Manners says that you are not supposed to mention gift-giving unless the giver asks.  If you have a large generous family and a small house, then you graciously accept gifts, you save a few good gifts that you will not use to regift to other children when your child attends their parties and you donate the remainder to charity.  For close family and friends, you can discuss (away from any gift giving occasion) having too many things and that you'd prefer they not give gifts.  For acquaintances, like the parents of classmates, just let them give a gift and be gracious.

I agree with OP.  To mention anything about gift giving, including "no gifts please" is rude.  It's becoming more commonplace, but it is still rude.[/quote]

So, if a classmate doesn't come to the party because the parents can't afford a gift, or feels bad once the kid is there because he can't afford a gift - that's OK with you?

I guess that's your perogative, but I'd rather be considerate of other people, even if it means I'm considered "rude" by some old fossil like Miss Manners.  [/quote]

No, it's not okay.  It's the job of the host parents (and the kid if he or she is old enough!) to make sure that kids *don't* feel bad that they don't have gifts to give!  What is this insanity?  You have a party.  Some guests show up with gifts, others show up with nothing.  The point of the party is that everyone has a good time.  If you think not everyone has gifts, don't make opening the gifts part of the party.  When you send the invites, try to make sure you know, or at least meet, even casually, who you are inviting, in a way that you can talk to them and let them know gifts or not, it's all okay!  The focus should be on love, not stuff.[/quote]

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