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[quote=Anonymous][/quote]My mom died a few years ago and I get along fine with my dad but have no real emotional connection or attachment to him. He’s not awful or even bad, but just not someone I connect with. I’m curious if others have any of the following dynamics in their family. [quote]

My dad was very much the same way. I loved him so much, but we really had such a flimsy connection to one another.  It makes sense to me that you feel no deep emotional connection to him, because he doesn't show a deep emotional connection to [i]you[/i]. It's natural that when someone has taken care of your needs but not shown much interest in you, as a person, that you might feel disconnected.

I think you are getting frustrated by wanting your father to [b]see[/b][i] YOU and your kids when he doesn't seem able to, but also having him seem to want you to see HIM, to attend to his needs/thoughts/etc. And then you feel guilty for being frustrated and wanting more. This is a kind of grief, too--wanting something different, more nourishing than what we have. You can appreciate your dad for all he has given you and who he is, and at the same time also wish he were different, MORE.[/quote]

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