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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]16:56 again.  OP you should stay out of it.  And your FIL is the AH here.  This is what marriage IS.  Taking care of your spouse when they need it.  Now, that doesn't mean you have to be the one changing their diapers..... but he can't just go on vacations.  Sheesh.

I am preparing to move 600 miles away because I feel called to care for my aging parent (who has similar symptoms BTW) and I feel called to HELP.  But I am not the main person *responsible* for mom's care.[/quote]

OP here -

I haven't discussed this with any of my inlaws or suggested anything. My husband and I have discussed it in private. He is burnt out from being the one who did help on and off for 10+ years, he *feels* (and again, this is only a feeling, it doesn't mean it's right or wrong) that because my BIL1 bought his parents house and SIL2 benefited from free childcare that his sister should help. Again, I'm not saying its what my inlaws should do I'm saying its what my husband thinks and I just brought it up in DCUM as a point of discussion.

And I do agree, my FIL needs to scale back on his time out of town because it puts a huge burden on my SIL1.[/quote]

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