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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wait, your mother kicked you out of the house at 13?? What prompted this?  And, why do you have a relationship with her now?  [/quote]

OP here.  My stepdad slapped me across the face and the next day I “ran away” (I didn’t go to school and hung around Dupont Circle.) I called a friend at about 8 pm and went to her house.  The next day I went to school and when my mom picked me up she told me I was moving in with my dad.

I have a relationship with her now mostly due to my kids.  I think if I didn’t have kids she would still be patently uninterested in me/my life.[/quote]

Do you think your children benefit from the relationship?  Do you she will treat them similarly when your brother has his own children?

How often do you see your mother now?[/quote]

OP here.  She really adores them and treats them comparatively very well - she dotes on them.  I’m not sure my brother will ever have kids but I think she would treat his equally as well, although I fear for his future wife (she doesn’t like women in general).

I see my mom 3-4x a year.[/quote]

3-4 times a year is fine.  It isn’t too much for you.  I would work with your therapist to learn how to keep your distance if she wants more.  I would also caution that once your children grow out of the cute stage, she may not be as attentive to them.  If your brother does marry and have children, she may switch her focus away from your children and be patently uninterested in them too.

How much time do your children have with their father?

I wish you luck and good fortune.   Concentrate on those in your life that give you love (presumably your children and your new DH).

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