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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Can I just say the people writing here are just idiots? Of course she wants the money to go to the children rather than the already rich new wife! Are you people insane, nuts, or subject to some other impairment? He is 79! Do you really want an inheritance that can change the course of the children's life for the better to be placed on the hands of a late-comer wife that may donate it all to PETA? I don't know what unrealistic, Disney-fied world you children live in, but back in the real world of limited resources and reasonableness of course the 79 should absolutely ensure that the bulk of the estate goes to the grandchildren and not the new wife! Get an estate lawyer and draft a plan![/quote]

As a lawyer (with dead broke parents so no conflict of interest) I agree with this. I think OP and her husband are wise to make sure that, whatever FIL’s wishes, it is reduced to writing ASAP. People engage in magical thinking about this sort of thing and assume it will all work out somehow but the only way for that to happen is for it to be put down in a will. [/quote]

+1. H’s dad remarried. They both wanted the estate to go to H’s disabled brother but no one pushed them to update the trust. So his father passed then the new wife passed in quick succession. The estate went to her insane, horrible, long estranged sister and both of them would be horrified if they realized this is how things would turn out. Meanwhile, H and I are figuring desperately how to figure out how to care for his brother.

Speak up people. And if they do in fact wish for things to go a certain way, push to get it in writing.  [/quote]

Horrible. I’ll never understand how people can be smart enough to earn money but so damn stupid about planning. My MIL is going in the same direction - her hard earned money will likely end up in the hands of her weird adult stepson instead of paying for her grandkid’s college, all because we aren’t allowed to ask questions or discuss how much college actually costs. [/quote]

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