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[quote=Anonymous]You could be describing my mom.  She eventually connected with a vision support organization (Helen Keller) where she lived - they send a "vision consultant" who sits with the client, learns about their lifestyle, and shares pointers and great AL devices.  Mom resisted HUGELY me taking over her paperwork/bills, but finally relented because she just couldn't manage.  She allowed me to do PeaPod shopping for her; she used the town senior/disabled transportation service, as well as one provided by the church.  When Covid hit, and local people were reluctant to go to visit her, as they didn't want to possibly get her sick, she got hurt several times at home, and then I had to have the "come to Jesus talk" with her.  She moved into AL near us, as there was just no way she - or I- could find homecare options for her.

It was a constant battle, and she was resentful and reluctant to lose her independence, and sometimes really mean to me, even though I tried not to push, and let her lead as much as possible.

It sucked and it was hard to manage balance between worry over mom, work, and taking care of my own child.

Great resources I found while she was still in her own home:  church outreach (they had a meal delivery service as well as people who would drive to doctors appointments); the assisted living aid company MaxiAids (bump dots & velcro were lifesavers when it came to marking buttons on the microwave and helping with switches, etc.); the doctor's office (they were  often the Voice of Reason, as the doctors were always listened to); sharing stories about a friend's mom, who experienced... (It was easier bringing up topics with mom that way & she was more willing to listen.).

I would say that the one wish I had was that mom had been willing to move sooner, as she would have been able to use her remaining sight to get to know the new place better, rather than after she lost most of it.

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