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[quote=Anonymous]  OP I so get it and the rich are different-many of them. I have done community service whenever I could and I give to charity and we are middle class My parents were/are (one has passed) wealthy and hoarded money. They didn't believe in giving to charity unless it was a status thing and they could get their name on something-nothing to help the less fortunate. No volunteer work. Countless fancy trips, fancy things and fancy meals and an endless need to brag.

I never asked for money. It was made clear to me it was all theirs. My husband and I developed a nice life living below our means and saving. I was there for dad as he aged and have tried to be there for mom. Now that she is the sole owner of all that money dad earned-many millions-she has truly become unbearable and downright abusive in her entitlement and demands as she constantly threatens to not give us a dime, which is fine-never planned for it. I just won't take abuse.

We faced hard times-many medical bills for one of our kids and special needs, husband's illness and didn't ask for money or even emotional support because mom cannot do that-she just doesn't have the depth to be supportive, yet for the most minor things she expects to be able to emote and obsess to me and she wants me to be at her beckon call. She also for so long refused to spend money to just hire help for things.

All this is to say I think the way some people get so rich is by being ruthless and heartless. We plan to provide buffers for our kids when they hit hard times. We want to be their emotionally and we also would help financially too. We don't have the get rich at all cost mentality. We care about people. We care about those who struggle.

Rich in character and empathy are so much more important. Sounds like you do have that wealth. I am sorry your dad was a jerk and I don't agree with those defending him.[/quote]

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