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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]feel like a failure when I see larger families and wonder if I should just go for it [/quote]

I'm sure you know that this isn't a good reason to have a child.

I'm one of three so always thought I'd have three, but I'm happy with my two. (I think this gets easier with time. Mine are teens.)[/quote]

Agree with this and the PP who talked about you not having the bandwidth and someone having to fend for themselves.  I was that kid who was the youngest and the “easiest” so I ended up falling into that trap of not wanting to add to my parents’ physical, emotional, financial, or time burdens.  It had negative impact, although I was more self-sufficient than many of my cohort. And, my mother was a SAHM until I was 11.  [/quote]

This is OP. The failing part was not well articulated. I mean that I see people with three kids (or more! Though I absolutely have no interest in more than 3) and [b]wonder how they’re managing[/b] while I’m overwhelmed with my life with two. [/quote]

They don't. They just do the best they can.

If you're on the fence, don't. Having the third kid requires additional sacrifice on your health, sleep, finance, stress... I have 3, and I'm feeling it everyday. However, since I want the third kid, it's worth the trade off for me.

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I mean, I have three kids, am doing the best I can, and also feel like I’m managing pretty well (knock wood).

People are different, OP.  Their circumstances vary enormously.  Raising kids is damn hard - and most four year olds are documented a-holes.  Don’t beat yourself up because you’re overwhelmed with your two.  I do think it’s worth considering how you can feel less overwhelmed, because that’s an unsustainable state.  [/quote]

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