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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OMG, I had to read this twice to make sure it wasn’t my husband writing it! We are in the exact same situation except my MIL has remarried. She resents the hell out of my parents for simply existing. We are convinced she is a narcissist.

I have no words of wisdom except that we have told his mom to ignore my parents at kid events. Just don’t even try to be fake nice because she lives in some bizarro alternate reality where every interaction is mischaracterized. So the easiest route is one of just show up and go to your corner, MIL.

It is exhausting, and you have my sympathies. [/quote]

OP here. Sorry you are dealing with this too. Luckily they generally ignore each other, but it's so awkward and uncomfortable as I literally have to sit in the middle of them at everything. And then when they see my child after the event, [b]my mom gets very possessive and seems to have a problem if my ILs are there during "her" time with HER grandchild. That plus the calls afterwards about her issues with how everything played out AND my perceived role in all of it is what's truly exhausting. Last time it was that I didn't pay her enough attention and DC didn't pay her enough attention. It's just all too much for an elementary school program (or whatever event it may be).[/b][/quote]

I have a friend that had to stop inviting/including her mother for this very reason. And I have to say it's really not fair to your kid that her grandmother is talking about her like this. You need to shut these conversations down. I think I'd be so irritated after awhile I would say, "I'm sorry you didn't enjoy yourself. I'll make a note of it for the future, but I've got to go right now. Susie has the axe again. Bye!" And then don't invite her next time. When she flips out just calmly say, "Oh, you never enjoy yourself so we didn't think you'd want to come. Whoops, Timmy's eating rat poison. Gotta go. Bye!"

Obvious, I'm being a little ridiculous, but you are putting yourself in this situation. [/quote]

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