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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I can’t break up with him before the holidays because he will be spending the holidays with my family, so that is not an option. He doesn’t have family living locally and wouldn’t have plans otherwise. [/quote]

You think he’s going to feel better when he realizes that you spent the holidays with him knowing you were going to break it off? [/quote]

DP.  Or you think he's going to feel better that you stayed together and let him buy you an expensive gift out of pity because he had no other family?

From all of your posts, you've given the impression that you don't think the relationship is long-term.  You are stringing him along just in case something makes you feel that it is worth it, but it's not because you love him or that you want what's best for him, only that you're trying to get the most bang for your buck out of this relationship or out of keeping the relationship going.  And you're staying together because it makes you feel better.  You're going to dump him, but you want to give him one last good Christmas out of charity and pity.

Stop trying to work out what will make YOU feel better and stop the charade.  You aren't in love with him.  You don't see a long term relationship with him.  It is far less cruel to end it now than string him along just to give him a false sense of a good Christmas.  If you break it off now, you can stop him from spending the money for the expensive gift that might not be returnable.  Also, if you break it off now, you might ruin one Christmas.  If you string him along and give him a false Christmas, he will resent you and it will ruin many future Christmases for him as a reminder of what  you did to him.[/quote]

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