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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Yes, many times I have told her if it comes with a guilt trip, I don't want it-be it a gift, card or well wish. The poster who gave an example of a conversation was not far off. I have definitely had covos like that with her.[/quote]

OP, I wanted to tell you that when your mom sends you a card with just well wishes (complying with your request) it most likely means that she is busy making people miserable on other fronts, and therefore doesn't need you as a target. It's not much more than that.

Do you already know and practice "grey rock"? It's a behavior pattern for you that makes you an extremely boring target, so you receive less abuse. It's refusing to perform the dance on your end. It results in basically, no real relationship, which is when some daughters of narcissistic mothers wonder, "Why am I continuing the facade of a relationship when there's no relationship there?" But some find it a good compromise instead of the Big Estrangement. The truth is, there really is never any real relationship with a PD.  [/quote]

OP here. Interesting. That could be the case. She does occasionally find others to target.

Yes, I learned about grey rock on DCUM and I use it.[/quote]

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