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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How about you take your MIL with you. How about DH takes his Father along with him.[/quote]

OP here. “Take them along” where? They don’t want to go on a walk around the nearby lake that has a few playgrounds around it (totally flat and smooth surface, and they have no mobility issues). They don’t want to go see a family movie together. They don’t want to drive through the light show. They don’t want to go to a museum or aquarium. They don’t even want to go out to lunch. If I suggested to MIL she “come along” with me to the grocery store or to get a pedicure, she would not want to go. If DH suggested that FIL “come along” with him to Lowe’s or to rake leaves, he wouldn’t want to.

“But we came here to see YOU” is the constant refrain. If we let the kids go out and ride bikes, that’s frowned upon because “we came here to see YOU.”[/quote]

I sympathize, but how often do they visit? Is it just once a year? Why are you going to Lowe's and getting pedicures during their visits? Why can't that wait until they leave? I don't think that's being a very good host. These aren't activities to get the kids out of the house. Weird. It sounds like you view them as a burden. Why invite them in the first place?[/quote]
That's stupid.  People can't put their lives on hold for five days because guests don't want to leave the house for ANYTHING.  And getting pedicures together is a perfectly normal activity to suggest.  When we visit my parents, I often run errands with my mom or do chores with my dad, since that's a way to spend time together and make our visits less of a disruption.[/quote]

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