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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She's scared OP. Can you bring her to your home? [/quote]

Absolutely not.  She screams when the kids raise their voice above a whisper.  I moved her across states so that she is only a mile from my house, though.[/quote]

OP based on your original post and the tone of this comment, it seems pretty clear that you do not have the emotional or mental capability to be present for your mother as she goes through the dying process.  Many people do not. Be honest and admit that and discuss it with the hospice people. Then YOU (and only you) decide how much and how often (if at all) you want to see your mother.

I think going for 5 minutes with an open heart once every few days is better than spending hours there with your resentment and anger palpable to your mother.   [/quote]

Not OP, but this is a ridiculous shitpost. [/quote]

No it's not. It's honest. OP's words/descriptions show they are struggling with this and they should talk about this with hospice. Hospice is fully experienced in understanding (and supporting) those who cannot handle the dying process. [/quote]
Nothing about OP’s posts suggest she cannot handle the dying process.  She asked for suggestions for how to deal with one aspect of it.  Acknowledging that having her mother in her own home would not be a good dynamic in no way suggests that she cannot handle they dying process.  You are just looking for an excuse to make someone else feel like shit.  Get help.[/quote]

Many people reach a point they cannot emotionally handle the situation (as OP has already admitted) and there is nothing wrong with being honest about that and asking professionals for help.  If you feel this is "shit" advice than it's more a reflection on your own psyche. [/quote]

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