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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hmmmm…you know the person doing the cutting off is disengaging from conflict and drama. The cut off is putting an end to the conflict so people can just go live their lives happily. It’s the opposite of stirring any pots or loving conflict.[/quote]

It’s a failure of adult communication that risks creating permanent rifts and rejects compromise and resolution. Much of what some OPs have described could be addressed by using words, not with a hair flip and stomping off in a huff. I’m thinking in particular of the threads about SILs and judgmental moms, both of which elicited advice to cut them off and/or not invite them back. Why is anybody encouraging these OPs to escalate instead of work it out? We aren’t in middle school. Use your words, people.
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Not the person you are responding to, but have you read the threads? Once again, the majority of people who cut off have gotten years of therapy to help them try every possible thing to compromise or resolve conflict or if not possible to accept the person's limitations and work around the problematic behaviors. There is often a final straw that might seem small that finally sets off the break, but it has been building for years even decades. You cut off because there is no risk that comes with break. The person causes so much pay again and again, the only outcome is getting your peace back. People have used their words over and over in every permutation possible and finally after exhausting your options the silence is golden and beautiful. The person can no longer hurt you and dissapoint you over and over and you can focus more energy on your healthy relationships.

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If these people are paying therapists who tell them to cut someone off, why are they posting here?[/quote]

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