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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For me "no gifts" translate to "cash only".  Since I normally spend $25 for a kid's gift, I will send an Amazon e-gift card of the same amount.

If they have specified "canned goods", I will not send my kid with a can.  I will buy $25 worth of cans.[/quote]

In the first case, I understand that you see giving a gift card as being generous but I see it as you're still not doing what the host has asked. No gifts means no gifts at all--not an e-gift card either. I'm not saying I don't think most people would be happy to receive a gift card...I'm saying that you're still going against their stated wishes if you do this and it's no necessary. A kids' bday party is not a wedding. At a wedding, if they specify no gifts often it is still expected that a guest give a monetary gift. It's a custom. There is no such custom for a kid's bday party.

For the canned goods, since they're being donated to a food drive, it's great to give as much as you can/want.[/quote]

First of all, we have only ever had one person who specified  "no gifts" for their kid's birthday. They also redeemed the gift card.  So we do not have a slew of people saying "no gifts".  IME - money has always been welcome and no one rejected the money.

As for the canned goods, I cannot send my kid with a can of soup to anyone's party. Lol, what impact are they making to the charity if in total you are giving several assorted cans of food (and God knows no one checks if you are giving expired food).  This fake virtue signaling is horrible.  If the kid wants to donate to a food bank, they should ask the food bank what supplies they need, and then ask for the guests to only get those items and each kid get food worth the amount they would have given as a gift.

If you want to have a "no gifts" birthday party - just call it a lunch or a playdate.    Don't announce that it is a birthday party.  Simple.  When you specify the occasion, you will get gifts.  [/quote]

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