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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am going through a divorce. He has agreed to let me buy him out of the house, sfh colonial style 4br in a good exurb school district where most homes are exorbitantly high or smaller split levels...so I believe the value will go up.
The rates are obviously high. I locked at 7.125% for a 30 yr conventional. I was approved but haven't closed yet... [b]My monthly mortgage payment will go up by 1500.[/b] I'll still have over 20% equity in the home. This would put monthly mortgage at 3600. My salary is 149k. For the same mortgage I would not be able to get as good of a house in as good of a neighborhood, plus I'd like to keep my kids in the same schools.
Now I'm rethinking whether this is the best way to go. While my gross salary makes it all seem doable, I don't feel like I have an extra 1500 laying around per month??! (Finances are already split with stbxh)
Should I consider doing an ARM instead? Should I sell instead? Should I just plan to do more side hustling and get more income? (Not completely undoable - I did contract work before)
I don't know if this is even enough information to advise. I'm tired of thinking.[/quote]

That's just your mortgage payment though. Lots of other expenses will increase in the coming years - inflation and just general rise in costs. 
There will also be maintenance and upkeep for the house and now you will be responsible for those costs. 
Hopefully you will get some child support but there will always be additional needs for the kids and your ex doesn't have to agree to cover them. Activities, classes, sports equipment, day camps, vacation, clothes, items for school and so on.  
I am not saying it isn't doable, I am just saying to really consider all the costs. I think that you are hesitating bc you are already know about all the extra costs. 
But as the sole owner of the home, if it does get to be too much you will be able to sell it.
[b]You might want to really consider though if maybe now is the time to move since your kids aren't established in school yet. You may need to move further out and/or buy something smaller[/b].[/quote]
$3800 for 4 kids in a SFH is a GREAT amount to pay for housing. Moving is not going to put her in a better financial position. OP just said she can pick up an extra 40-50k in a side hustle and the last 2 kids will age out of full day care soon. She will be fine.[/quote]

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