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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. How do I respond when DH is angry that I hired someone to fix the shower? There is no way he will say thanks or even say nothing. He will definitely be annoyed.

And to the PP who asked if I am a money waster, no I am not. DH and I definitely disagree on what is a worthwhile use of money and what is not, but at the end of every discussion, he has the final say. I have conditioned myself to be very frugal over the years in response to his behavior. [/quote]

How much is in your household repairs budget? [/quote]

I was going to suggest to OP that she talk to her DH about having a household repair budget. She can go online to get estimates of what is reasonable (1% or something of purchase price) and they can incorporate it as a steady savings amount every month, like other bills. She can use those funds for these little repairs without bothering him about it. They can agree that repair amounts above a certain amount require agreement of both people.

It sounds like he has financial anxiety.[/quote]

Yes, which is why I also suggested finding a repairman who will show her how to do household repairs and honestly, your kids too! Say youll pay them to do the repair and an extra hourly wage to show you and your kids how to perform basic household maintenance. Especially if your DH is not including your children in household maintenance jobs. You also need to know how to do it should your DH become incapacitated- god forbid- AND when you see things to be done, you can do them. [/quote]

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