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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not the ex- but the Ho that was part of it.  Working hard to get rid of that anger and disgust.[/quote]

Yep, same. The thoughts haunt me. I wish I could make them go away, but I can’t. I can’t sleep at night because of thoughts of that person that won’t go away. When I finally do fall asleep, those thoughts makes me feel so sad every morning when I wake up. I have a minute or two when I first wake up where I feel that my life is the same as I thought, but then those thoughts come back and I feel terrible again.

I’m not sure I’ll ever feel “normal”  again. [/quote]

Same.  But not sadness, intense anger.  [b]I dream of bad stuff happening to her and it’s so satisfying.[/b]

But, she’s not a good person and she hates her life.  She wanted mine and told me she was jealous of me.

Love your best life with your head held high.  You aren’t a bad person that does things you know will hurt someone else.

The universe works out in the end.

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Re: the bold, I get how that's satisfying at a certain point, but if this breakup was a while ago -- have you considered that the level of imaginary "bad stuff" after a certain point is actually a problem for you? Just something to consider. Spending time imagining something terrible happening to someone vile is cathartic, absolutely!, for a time. To be clear -- I'm not judging that reaction at ALL because I've been there too. But just noting that if the "bad stuff" fantasties still take up an iota of mental space years later....that's giving the ex, and the anger, a lot of mental real estate. [/quote]

So normal to have that level of hate/vitriol for an OW/OM that entered into your relationship with no care, and the cheater.

Time helps a lot and the universe really dies sort this stuff out.  People willing to do that have many issues and inner problems and the ones that don’t care are just vile unempathetic selfish people.

Imagine having to look yourself in the mirror as a liar and cheat, knowing you broke up families and hurt other women/children/men.[/quote]

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